Here in Canada, we have just celebrated Thanksgiving.
A chance to reflect on all the things of value in your life, the major and seemingly insignificant things that make life beautiful.
But why is it so much easier to be grateful when things are going your way?
The sun is shining, you’re in love, money in the bank, it so easy to fill up your gratitude journal, but when things are looking a little bleaker, that’s when we really need to give thanks.
A little less than four years ago, my husband and I were in a dark place. We had been trying for a baby for over 6 months with no luck, I know that may not seem like a lot, but when you are in the thick of TTC (trying to conceive) every day seems to drag, especially that agonizing two-week period between doing the thang and peeing on the stick.
We had planned a weekend away to a treehouse, on Valentine’s day. When we booked it, I imagined us snuggling up together atop the snow topped tree, laughing about possible baby names.
Instead, we sat shivering in a freezing February wooden box, suspended in the cool winter air, trying to decide what the hell we were going to do as we had both been laid off. BOTH OF US. And we weren’t pregnant.
A few weeks later I wrote in my diary that life sucked, that nothing seemed to work out for us and we were doomed to underachieve, underperform and fail.
It was only in looking back in hindsight and counting the days on the calendar that I realized when I wrote that deflated entry, our little boy was already settled in for the long haul and growing away.
He was right there, everything we wanted, and I was griping and complaining.
We all have bad days when we want to crawl under the duvet and never get up but there is always something to feel grateful for, and if you don’t think there is, ask yourself:
“Could it get any worse?” It mostly always can, rock bottom has a basement it seems.
Sometimes we miss the really beautiful things right in front of us because we are concentrating so hard on the next step, the next job, the next goal.
So close your eyes, focus on all the things that make you smile and make a list, life is pretty sweet after all.
My Gratitude List
- My boys, they both make me laugh every day and understand I have a medical need for cuddles
- My family- in all its messy jumble, they are all important to me
- My friends- mad as bananas the lot of them, but the best people you could ever meet
- My online mama group- we have been there at 3 am for each other and most of us have never even met
- Rain, thunder, lightning- nature’s floorshow with encore
- Seeing the moon in the daytime, it just looks cool
- Chocolate, need I say more??